Breakups are hard. They make us feel like we’ve lost everything and don’t know how to get it back again. But after a breakup, it doesn’t feel so bad because there are so many good things about them.
In this article, we will explore reasons why breakups are good for us. If you are dealing with a breakup right now, I pray for your fast healing, it gets better.
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1. They teach you what you want and what you don’t want in a relationship.
Breaking up is one of the best ways to learn what you want and don’t want in a relationship. Sometimes the things that draw us to a person are the same things that make us break up with them. If you break up with a person for a specific reason, you will not get into another relationship for that reason again.
2. A breakup will help you learn to be with yourself.
Most breakups are unplanned and when they happen, we naturally take sometimes to ourselves just to absorb what just happened.
While some people jump into another relationship to rebound, it is advisable to take a little time to yourself. Use this time to set your relationship goals, and know non-negotiables and the relationship rules you have that should be relaxed.
If being in love is something you enjoy, be careful not to fall in love with the alone space that you forget to date. Some people have gotten so comfortable with being with themselves that they kissed dating goodbye. Don’t be that person.
3. It’s a time to connect with friends and family.
Did you know when you are in a romantic relationship you don’t give enough attention to your other relationships? Well, you don’t! especially when your relationship is new and you are so in love with this person.
Your world revolves around this person. In every conversation you have with your friends and family you always find a way to make about your lover. During this period, you are not the most interesting to talk to. Some of your friends and family will drift away from you. No one wants to listen to what your lover likes and dislikes every damn time.
When you break up, take some time to reconnect with your friends and family. And when you are ready you can have a conversation about how annoying you were while you dated that specific person. Those kinds of conversations will reduce stress because they can be funny.
4. Breakups help create boundaries.
There are some boundaries will only learn how to create from a breakup. The break-up period can be painful but it is also a time to reflect on the things you accepted in that relationship.
We cringe so hard when we think about how let our ex-lover treat us. How could I let them do that to me? So the next time you find yourself in a relationship, you will know how to clearly communicate your boundaries.
And until you learn how to set boundaries in a relationship, you will keep going through the same sh*t in every relationship you have over and over again.
5. It can be an opportunity for growth, self-reflection, and healing.
Level up so hard after a breakup that your ex is not your type anymore.
Many people have used the post-break-up period to create something they probably couldn’t have if their hearts weren’t broken.
Adopt a new hobby, lose some weight, read a book, start a company, write a book, get into therapy, or even further your education. Do not waste your pain, turn it into a gain.
Some of the greatest work out here comes from a broken relationship. Some of the greatest songs and best-selling books were inspired by a breakup.
Use the hurt as your energy to level up.
6. All breakups aren’t going to be a total loss.
If you’re willing to take a step back and look at breakups as opportunities to grow and learn from them, then the breakup can be something positive for both parties involved!
Sometimes breaking up with your ex can be the best thing that ever happened to you, even if it doesn’t feel like it.
Breaking up with someone creates room for you to find your perfect match. If you break up with a person it’s clear that you two were not compatible. It may hurt but a breakup is actually a blessing in disguise.
7. Breakups teach us how to love
A breakup is the best teacher about how to love, especially your first-ever breakup. We enter into a relationship with fantasies and expectations which are fit for a fairy tale. But the reality of relationships is far from what we have seen in Cinderella and Sleeping beauty.
Relationships can be so ghetto. A breakup will teach you how to manage those expectations. It will help you love right, by not expecting a superhero out of a romantic partner. Only a breakup will help humanize your partners and love with human love.
8. Breakups help us build Emotional resilience
A breakup’s pain can be compared to that of grief. Heartbreaks hurt so much that you wouldn’t wish them on your worst enemy.
Nobody tells you how to heal your broken heart, but the moment you are able to get over it, you become unstoppable. You gain so much emotional muscle that it will take a village to break your heart.
You cannot compare the pain you felt when you experienced your first breakup and the one you felt in your third breakup. It is not the same.
We hope this article has helped you to think about breakups in a more positive way. Breakups happen, but they don’t have to be something that will leave you feeling down for the rest of your life. It’s important that we start thinking about breakups in a more healthy light by learning how best to deal with them as opposed to just avoiding them altogether.